ebernick If you want to design a better life for yourself, the starting point is you.
You are the cause of your problems, and at the same time you are also the solution. To change the results you are getting in your life, you need to think differently and act differently.
Happily, you have been endowed with the gift to choose. This ability enables you to free yourself from imprisonment to any circumstances you wish to escape from. It starts with you making the choice to change your thinking, beliefs and consequently your actions.
I once had a lovely German shepherd dog which I was very fond of. Her name was Amy, and she was very loyal and obedient. Whenever we were home, she was allowed inside certain areas of our home (kitchen, dining room), as she loved being close to us. There was only one problem. She was terrified of the lightning and thunder when it stormed (which we had much of during the summer months where we lived). When we were home, she was relatively calm if she could be inside the house with us, although her eyes and breathing revealed her underlying fear. Where the stress occurred for me was when we were not home and a storm built up with Amy outside. In her desperation to be near us, she would try to break open one of our wooden window frames (there was one window which was low enough for her to access on her hind legs), and once she actually succeeded in totally destroying the wooden window frame (we would always keep her in the back yard when we were away, so that she did not have access to the wooden sliding door in the front section). It cost me considerable money to replace the window frame, as well as building “Spanish burglar bars” over the window to prevent her from accessing the window again. No problem, the next time she targeted the bathroom window where the plumbing pipes offered her the opportunity to try and climb up the pipes and reach the window. The result? Broken plumbing pipes with lots of “brown stuff” flowing out and creating one hell of a stink! Just for good measure, she also scratched my SUV parked under an awning next to the garage.
This situation was really causing me loads of stress, and for a long time I suffered her actions because I loved her as a loyal pet, and knew she did not do it on purpose. This, however, did not diminish my stress, which was compounded by other stresses building up in my life.
One day I was reflecting on my life, and it suddenly dawned on me that I can reduce a lot of the stress in my life by choosing to change my beliefs which were holding me a prisoner to many of the problems I had created. In the case of Amy, I also realised that one choice would free me from the stress caused by her fear of the elements. Give her away to someone who will be able to provide her with a loving home where she cannot cause damage. Whilst it was heart sore for me to lose her, I had no more stress from that quarter. I advertised Amy in the local newspaper as a “loyal dog looking for a loving home”. When a former police dog trainer enquired about my ad, I explained the situation to him, and he was happy to take Amy because his daughter loved German Shepherds, and he was always home as he was now running his own business from home.
Win–win all round, but it took a decision from me to make the choice to do something about a stressful situation which I had accepted as being a part of my life I could not do anything about. Wrong! We are the cause as well as the solution to our problems. Chooseto design a better life for yourself.
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